Description
As more women take up corporate leadership positions, the idea that they lack confidence no longer holds up. And yet, as old stereotypes are challenged by new realities, some crucial misconceptions remain. Do women really lack confidence? Or are we more prone to think that others have less confidence in our abilities?
Based on years of research and practice in leadership and psychotherapy, Professor Ginka Toegel critically examines how the “lack of confidence” myth took hold and argues that it deserves to be challenged. Research, in fact, does not consistently support the notion of significant gender differences in self-reported self-confidence. Instead, the author takes a fresh look at persistent myths in self-help literature, such as the ideas that women “don’t ask,” are “risk-averse,” or are especially prone to “imposter syndrome”, and provides both tools and evidence to empower women to challenge these outdated beliefs and take the next steps in their careers.
Covering topics such as gaslighting, mastering challenging conversations, ‘overconfidence,’ benevolent sexism, motherhood, menopause, dealing with stress and anxiety, and micro-aggressions, all seen through the lens of confidence, this book gives you the tools and strategies to succeed throughout the entire length of your career. It is an indispensable guide for women who want to succeed, and the men who want to support them.
Table of Contents
Chapter 1: Do Women Lack Confidence?.- 1.1 What is Confidence?.- 1.2 What Feeds the “Women Lack Confidence” Narrative?.- 1.3 What Research Says About Women’s Confidence and Ambitions.- 1.4 Overconfidence, Assertiveness, and the Confidence Myth.- 1.5 More Myths: Women are Reluctant Risk-Takers and Women Don’t Ask.- Chapter 2: Disrupt Self-Defeating Behaviors.- 2.1 Self-Doubt and the Power of Reframing.- 2.2 Stop Rumination and Self-Blame.- 2.3 Become Visible, Proactive, and Take Credit.- 2.4 Communication Pitfalls.- 2.5 Be Careful with the Menial Tasks at Work.- Chapter 3: Transform Challenging Conversations into Opportunities.- 3.1 Delivering Bad News.- 3.2 Providing Feedback and Expressing Dissent.- 3.3 Dealing with Conflict: Avoiding the Drama Triangle.- 3.4 Conversations Around Salary, Raises, and Promotions.- 3.5 Managing a Difficult Relationship with Your Boss.- Chapter 4: Recognize and Deflect.- 4.1 Microaggressions.- 4.2 Gaslighting.- 4.3 Myths Perpetuated by Gaslighting.- 4.4 Role Incredulity, Untitling, and Uncredentialing as Forms of Devaluation.- 4.5 Benevolent Sexism.- 4.6 The Queen Bee Phenomenon.- Chapter 5: Faking It, Authenticity, and Imposter Phenomenon.- 5.1 Should We Really Fake It Until We Make It?.- 5.2 Authenticity.- 5.3 Imposter Phenomenon.- Chapter 6: Thriving at Every Life Stage.- 6.1 Motherhood, Work-Life Balance, and Advancing in Your Career.- 6.2 Menopause: Are Hormones Hijacking your Leadership?.- 6.3 How a Therapist Can Help.
