Description
The stories in Narrating Estrangement: Autoethnographies of Writing Of(f) Family demonstrate the pain, anguish, and even relief felt by those who contemplate estranging or who are estranged, whether by choice or circumstance. Despite the social assumptions persisting about the everlasting nature of family relationships, when people make the complicated and often difficult decision to disconnect from family members, they experience shame, stigma, and isolation because of social pressures to maintain those relationships at all costs.
Each contributor uses the act of storytelling and the autoethnographic mode of scholarship and writing to find clarity in their individual, unique, and complex situations. Several authors’ explorations restore some of what they have lost through estrangement—such as a sense of identity, emotional health and well-being, and feelings of belonging—due to the breakdowns in social and family support systems meant to be unconditional and "permanent." The stories display the wide array of reasons why family members become estranged, delving into different types of estrangement, permanent and/or intermittent. In doing so, the writers in this book demonstrate that family relationships are neither easily categorized nor neatly ended—their impact on an individual’s life continues and changes, even in and through estrangement.
This book adds to the ongoing scholarly conversations about family estrangement for students and researchers interested in autoethnography and qualitative inquiry, in a wide range of disciplines in the social sciences, healthcare, and communication studies.
Table of Contents
Inroduction
Lisa P. Z. Spinazola and David F. Purnell
Section One: Estrangement due to lingering effects of childhood neglect, abuse, or abandonment
1. Writing of, off, to, and from my mother: Moving forward, word by word
Lisa P. Z. Spinazola
2. Estrangement: A Father/Son Love Story
David F. Purnell
3. A Series of @!?#@!? Events: A Journey to Mother-Daughter Estrangement
Sarah LeBlanc
Section Two: Estrangement due to family secrets, betrayal, or death
4. Complicating the experience of estranging from a sibling
Anonymous (Darren)
5. Sister mine: Understanding family estrangement in siblings
Amy Muckleroy Carwile
6. Blood is thicker than water!
Christine Lewis
7. Traci(ng) Estrangement: Sisters, Secrets and Suicide
Trudi Peterson
Section Three: Estrangement resulting from the search for identity, belonging, or home
8. An Autoethnography of the Ongoing Impact of Parental Divorce and Estrangement
Andrea M. Bergstrom
9. Too far out all my life…but not drowning
Suzanne Crowley
10. Our Real-Life Matilda Moment: Redefining and Finding Family
Chanelle Walker and Julie L. G. Walker
Section Four: Estrangement initiated by another and out of our hands
11. Writing of(f) family: Sarah’s family hand-me-downs
Dawne Fahey
12. My Mum is a Dreamer: Losing Family but Learning to Love
Fiona Murray
13. The Roots are Gone Too: An Autoethnography of Estrangement and/in Mourning
Colin Whitworth
Conclusion
David F. Purnell and Lisa P. Z. Spinazola
