The Simple Care of a Hopeful Heart : Mentoring Yourself in Difficult Times

著者名：Wicks, Robert J.

Oxford University Press（2021/11/05発売）

• 言語：ENG
• ISBN：9780197515402
• eISBN：9780197515426

Description

In the end, it is not the amount of darkness in the world, our country, family or even within ourselves that matters-It is how we stand in that darkness that is crucial.In light of this, the overall question addressed in this book is simple and challenging: How can we best mentor ourselves with the knowledge that already surrounds us so we learn and grow from the changes, stress, and even trauma, that we must face in today's uncertain times?Underlying the book's overall message is the signature strength of humility because as the author emphasizes: When we take knowledge and add humility, we get wisdom, and when we then add this very wisdom to compassion, we get love... and love is at the heart of a rich, compassionate, and resilient life.The book presents a series of 50 brief lessons on such topics as:· Developing a renewed and deeper interest in creative approaches to self-care· Overcoming resistance to change· Ways to gain, maintain, and regain a healthy perspective· Appreciating the advantages of the "psychological detours" forced on us in life· How spending only 2 minutes each day in silence, solitude, and wrapped in gratitude can be transformative· Understanding how we can best apply the principles of posttraumatic growth (PTG) to our own life situation· Dealing effectively with necessary change and unexpected loss· Recognizing the importance of pacing and timing in our interactions with others

Table of Contents

Introduction: Good News in the Making50 Lessons in Self-Mentoring in Difficult TimesChapter 1: "Hold on for the Next Supply"Chapter 2: UnlearningChapter 3: The Two ViewsEL Both Are RealChapter 4: Maintaining a Healthy PerspectiveChapter 5: The Good and the Bad: Balancing Acts During Tough TimesChapter 6: Necessary Bump in the RoadChapter 7: During Uncertain Times, Don't Miss the OpeningChapter 8: Five Simple Steps to Prevent Loss of Emotional EnergyChapter 9: Taking the Little and Big Detours in LifeChapter 10: The One Word We Need in Really Stressful SituationsChapter 11: Only 2 Minutes? No Way! Yes, Way!!!Chapter 12: Change and LossChapter 13: Feeling Lost and Making Stupid MistakesChapter 14: During Tough Times... You Owe it to YourselfChapter 15: Pacing and Timing: The Forgotten Key FactorsChapter 16: Being Creative During an Extended Crisis is Great... But also Don't Forget the BasicChapter 17: Take a Break When Necessary... So You Can Continue to Be InvolvedChapter 18: The "Small Things" During a Crisis and its AftermathChapter 19: Planning Versus Preoccupation: Very, Very DifferentChapter 20: Amazingly, Few Report This... But they do exist! I Have Seen ThemChapter 21: I Must Remember That...Chapter 22: The Blame GameChapter 23: Being Aware of the Dangers of Toxic CompassionChapter 24: Images of GoodnessChapter 25: "Little" Memories that Bring Tears of Joy to My Life... Even NowChapter 26: An Unexpected Harvard Experience... Why Don't You Try It As Well?Chapter 27: One of the Most Serious Blocks to Self-MentoringChapter 28: Honoring AlonetimeChapter 29: Avoid the 3 Blind AlleysChapter 30: Kindness Wears Many Different Types of ClothesChapter 31: A Very Dangerous FearChapter 32: Eat the Food... Not the Menu!Chapter 33: Being Friendly with Yourself: Failure and Self-ForgivenessChapter 34: Strengthening the StrongChapter 35: Mentally Moving in Uncertain TimesChapter 36: Seeing through the CloudsChapter 37: "The Future Is Not What It Used to Be"Chapter 38: A Strange TensionChapter 39: You've Got an Attitude!Chapter 40: Personality Styles: Gifts and DeficitsChapter 41: Becoming an Elder... Not Simply OlderChapter 42: "Look Who's Talking!"Chapter 43: What You Already KnowELIs the ProblemChapter 44: Friendship's True GiftChapter 45: Isn't It Nice to Understand?Chapter 46: The Holocaust and the Joy of a Healthy PerspectiveChapter 47: Standing in the DarknessChapter 48: Simple GraciousnessChapter 49: Leaning Back to Find Openness, Possibility... and a Healthy PerspectiveChapter 50: A Refreshing Place of My OwnEpilogue: You're Stronger Swimming UpstreamAppendix: A Month of Minute Reminders