Description
Romantic love presents some of life's most challenging questions. Can we choose who to love? Is romantic love rational? Can we love more than one person at a time? And can we make ourselves fall out of love? Berit Brogaard here attempts to get to the bottom of love's many contradictions. This short book, informed by both historical and cutting edge philosophy, psychology, and neuroscience, combines a new theory of romantic love with entertaining anecdotes from real life and accessible explanations of the neuroscience underlying our wildest passions. Against the grain, Brogaard argues that love is an emotion; that it can be, at turns, both rational and irrational; and that it can be manifested in degrees. We can love one person more than another and we can love a person a little or a lot or not at all. And love isn't even always something we consciously feel. However, love -- like other emotions, both conscious and not -- is subject to rational control, and falling in or out of it can be a deliberate choice. This engaging and innovative look at a universal topic, featuring original line drawings by illustrator Gareth Southwell, illuminates the processes behind heartbreak, obsession, jealousy, attachment, and more.
Table of Contents
PrefaceChapter 1: Letter from a FriendChapter 2: The Chemistry of LoveYour Brain on CrackBeliefs and Brain ChemistryTaking the Drug AwayAddicted to GriefEmotional PainStress, Pimples and Gray HairLove and HateChapter 3: The Philosophy of Love Love as an EmotionBasic and Complex EmotionsThe James-Lange TheoryThe Conjunctive Theory of EmotionsThe Connection ProblemThe Problem of Emotional Responses to FictionThe Perceived-Response TheoryChapter 4: Irrational Love Does the Idea of Irrational Love Make Sense?You Call It Madness, I Call It LoveIrrational Compassionate LoveLove as a Moral EmotionLove as a HistoryLove and Personal IdentityIs Love Unconditional?Love and Personal IdentityLove and SexChapter 5: Relationships and Insecure Attachment Avoidant Attachment StyleSecure Versus Insecure AttachmentAvoidant AttachmentAnxious AttachmentChildish RelationshipsJealousy and Anxious AttachmentAttachment and the Relationship TheoryCan Attachment Styles Change?Familiar LoveAttachment LoveCan Animals Love?The Other Dimension of SexChapter 6: Our Unconscious Affections Opponents of Unconscious AffectionUnconscious AffectUnconscious LoveIn Your DreamsIs Love a DispositionChapter 7: He Is Just Not That into You(And Other In-Between Cases)Prototype TheoryNon-Monogamous Love as In-Between Cases"Love" is a Gradable VerbHe's Just Not That Into YouAmbivalenceChapter 8: How To Fall Out of Love Sigmund Freud and Friedrich NietzschePsychoanalysis and Talk TherapyEmotional Regulation and Avoidance BehaviorThe Repetition TechniqueProlonged Exposure TherapyEye Movement Desensitization and ReprocessingDeep Relaxation and MeditationHeartbreak and Placement ConditioningThe Sinclair MethodOut, Damned Spot: Using Soap to Wash Away Your Negative FeelingsEmotional Regulation as a Route to HappinessThe End: The Heart Wants What It WantsReferences
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- 洋書
- Amy Sherald
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- 洋書電子書籍
- Primary ICT for Tea…
