Full Description
Have you ever heard the phrase 'It's easier to ask forgiveness than permission?' Violating consent isn't limited to sexual relationships, and our discussions around consent shouldn't be, either. To resist rape culture, we need a consent culture-and one that is more than just reactionary. Left confined to intimate spaces, consent will atrophy as theory that is never put into practice. The multi-layered power disparities of today's world require a response sensitive to a wide range of lived experiences. In Ask, Kitty Stryker assembles a retinue of writers, journalists, and activists to examine how a cultural politic centered on consent can empower us outside the bedroom, whether it's at the doctor's office, interacting with law enforcement, or calling out financial abuse within radical communities. More than a collection of essays, Ask is a testimony and guide on the role that negated consent plays in our lives, examining how we can take those first steps to reclaim it from institutionalized power.
Contents
Foreword - Laurie PennyIntroduction - Kitty StrykerIN THE BEDROOMSex and Love When You Hate Yourself and Don't Have Your Shit Together - JoEllen NotteThe Legal Framework of Consent Is Worthless - AV FloxThe Political Is Personal: A Critique of What Popular Culture Teaches About Consent (and How to Fix It) - Porscha ColemanIN THE SCHOOLRehearsing Consent Culture: Revolutionary Playtime - Richard M. WrightThe Power of Men Teaching Men - Shawn D. TaylorThe Green Eggs and Ham Scam - Cherry ZonkowskiIN THE JAILResponding to Sexual Harms in Communities: Who Pays and Who Cares? - Alex DymockThe Kids Aren't All Right: Consent and Our Miranda Rights - Navarre OvertonJust Passing By - Roz KaveneyIN THE WORKPLACE"Ethical Porn" Starts When You Pay for It - Jiz LeeThere's No Rulebook for This - Tobi Hill-MeyerService with a Smile Is Not Consent - Cameryn MooreIN THE HOMEConsent Culture Begins at Home - Eve Rickert and Franklin VeauxBodily Autonomy for Kids - Akilah S. RichardsTo Keep a Roof Over my Head, I Consented to Delaying my Transition - Laura Kate DaleIN THE HOSPITALGiving Birth When Black - Takeallah RiveraFatphobia and Consent: How Social Stigma Mitigates Fat Women's Autonomy - Virgie TovarWrestling with Consent (and Also Other Wrestlers) - Jetta RaeIN THE COMMUNITYGames, Role-Playing, and Consent - Kate FractalTrouble, Lies, and White Fragility: Tips for White People - Cinnamon MaxxineSleeping with Fishes: A Skinny Dip into Sex Parties - Zev Ubu HoffmanSex Is a Life Skill: Sex Ed for the Neuroatypical - Sez ThomasinAfterword - Carol Queen
