Full Description
A thorough revision with a new video of couples in action, using the PREP method for strengthening marriage and avoiding divorce court
The third edition of the best-selling classic on marriage enhancement and divorce prevention, features the latest research and changes of heart in our culture and society. New and revised, Fighting for Your Marriage is based on the widely acclaimed PREP (Prevention and Relationship Enhancement Program) approach. Groundbreaking studies have found that couples can use the strategies of this approach to handle conflict more constructively, protect their happiness, and reduce the odds of breaking up.
The book is based on more than twenty years of university research
Explores how to apply the PREP approach to any marriage
Shows couples how to talk more and fight less, deepen and protect their friendship, and keep the fun alive
Reveals what it takes to have a more intimate, sensual relationship and how to clarify and act on priorities
The authors have included a wealth of techniques and down-to-earth guidance for all couples who seek to promote greater character and pleasure in their long-term relationships.
Contents
Acknowledgments ix
Introduction 1
Part One Understanding the Risks on the Road to Lasting Love 17
1. Five Keys for a Great Relationship: PREP in a Nutshell 19
2. Destructive Patterns: Signs of Danger Ahead 37
3. Changing Roles, Changing Rules: Men and Women in Conflict 64
Part Two Teaming Up to Handle Conflict 87
4. When What You Heard Isn't What I Said: Understanding Filters in Communication 89
5. Talking Safely Without Fighting: The Speaker Listener Technique 106
6. Controlling the Home Fires: Handling Issues and Events Well 134
7. New Perspectives on Problems and Problem Solving 160
8. Keeping Conflict Under Control: Ground Rules for a Great Relationship 192
Part Three Enjoying Each Other 215
9. Safe Harbor: Preserving and Protecting Friendship 217
10. Being There: Supporting One Another in Life 232
11. Playing Together: How to Succeed in Fun Without Really Trying 255
12. Sense and Sensuality: Enhancing and Protecting Your Sex Life 270
13. Sacred Places: Core Beliefs and Spiritual Intimacy 294
Part Four Staying the Course 319
14. Why You Can't Always Get What You Want: Unraveling the Mysteries of Expectations 321
15. Forgiveness: Restoring Hope 343
16. Sticking, Stuck, or Stopped: On the Path to Commitment 372
17. Moving Forward 403
Getting More Help 409
Resources and Training 413
References 417
About the Authors 427
Index 429
