Description
Stop chasing gold stars and start chasing the life you really want.
We’ve spent years being the good girl: saying yes when we mean no, shrinking ourselves to make others comfortable and prioritising everyone else’s needs. Our conditioning to be ‘good’ runs deep. As children, we’re praised for being polite, quiet and well-behaved. In the workplace, we’re rewarded for compliance over confidence. The result? Chronic illness, burnout, buried emotions — and a feeling that we’re constantly performing for other people, rather than living a life that is true to us.
In Good Girl, Goodbye, Caitlin Judd — founder of the award-winning lady-brains podcast — offers a bold roadmap to break the patterns keeping us small. Drawing from her work coaching thousands of women, interviewing Australia’s best female founders, and her background in business and positive psychology, Judd shows women how to set fierce boundaries and build a life they love. You’ll learn how to:
- Identify the 12 Good Girl archetypes stealing your peace, energy and confidence
- Say no without guilt and set healthy boundaries
- Stop sacrificing your truth to keep others comfortable
- Discover your strengths and reclaim your personal power
- Use practical tools and a change framework to define what true success means to you
Good Girl, Goodbye is for the women who are tired of chasing gold stars in systems and institutions that don’t value who they really are. Whether you’re a perfectionist, a people-pleaser or a shapeshifter, this book hands you the permission slip you’ve been waiting for to choose yourself — without apology.
Table of Contents
About the Author ix
Author's Note xi
Introduction xv
Part I The Foundations 1
1 Meet the Good Girl 3
2 The Systems That Weren't Built for Us 19
3 The Shaping of the Good Girl 45
4 The Good Girl Archetypes 57
Part II The Cost 67
5 The Beliefs and Behaviours That Keep Us Small 69
6 The Hidden Sacrifices 79
7 Being a Good Girl Hurts 105
Part III The Unbecoming 113
8 An Invitation to Create Change 115
9 B — Believe in Yourself and in Change 125
10 U — Unbecome to Become 145
11 I — Integrate Through Play and Practice 153
12 L — Loop Through Feedback 163
13 D — Design and Build Your Future 171
14 E — Environmental and Energy Shifts 183
15 R — Relationships to Hold You Up 193
Part IV The Rebuilding 207
16 Building Your New System 209
17 Raising Girls to Know Their Worth 227
18 Everyday Acts of Rebellion 237
19 Good Girl, Goodbye 251
Conclusion: The Other Side of Girlhood 257
Acknowledgements 263
Further Resources 265
Reference List 267
