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When to hold on; when to let go--a constant dilemma of parenthood. This timely book examines the balance between these powerful dynamics. How parents can instill confidence and security in children and how professionals can recognize and respond when this process goes awry. Holding too long and too tight? Letting go too soon and too easily? Includes down-to-earth descriptions of family systems and identity development and guidance on remaining an emotional anchor in children's lives as they launch toward independence. Psychologist Benjamin Garber is author of Keeping Kids Out of the Middle and Developmental Psychology for Family Law Professionals.
Contents
Introduction On the Survival of the Species; Inter-generational DominoesChapter 2 Where Do You Get Your Emotional Fuel? People are like Cars: What's Your MPG? Are You Ready to Become Another Person's Gas Station?Chapter 3 The Oceanic Self The Newborn Experiences Everything as Self; The "Drip" MetaphorChapter 4 Me v. Not Me Childhood as Emergence; The Anchor Metaphor; Tantrums, Practice and Faux SeparationsChapter 5 Healthy Anger Anger is Part of a Loving Relationship, Not the End of Love; How Do You Express Your Anger?Chapter 6 "NOT ME!" Adolescence and Rejection; Rageful Separations; Launching and Re-entry; Tough-LoveChapter 7 Accessorizing Self Boyfriends and Girlfriends, Peer Groups, Gang Colors, Team Members, Religion and IdentityChapter 8 Fractured Self Trauma Can Create Fault Lines That Lay Dormant, Like a Mine, Until Your Partner or Your Child Steps on ItChapter 9 Becoming a Parent Redefining Self for Mothers ... and Fathers? Three's Company?Chapter 10 Letting Go From the Moment of Birth On; Two Steps Forward, One Step Back; "But Billy's Parents Let Him!"Chapter 11 Holding Tight The Healthy Parent, Limits, Boundaries and Follow-ThroughChapter 12 Transitional Objects Helping Our Kids Internalize the Security We ProvideChapter 13 Technology and Holding Tight Baby Monitors, GPS Trackers and Text Messaging as Umbilical CordsChapter 14 Divorce Divorce With or Without Marriage Letting Go of an Intimate Partner Can Be like Losing a Limb; How Do You Compensate?Chapter 15 When Needy Parents Hold Too Tight: Adultified, Parentified and Infantitized Children Sometimes the Dominoes Fall Backwards: Fractured Parents Seek Their Children's LoveChapter 16 When Needy Parents Can't Share: Parental Alienation Selfishly Undermining the Child's Opportunity to Love Her Other ParentChapter 17 Repairing Self "In Case of a Sudden Loss of Cabin Pressure..."; Psychotherapy, Meds, Exercise, SpiritualityChapter 18 Adult Children as Our Caregivers? The Harsh Realities of AgingChapter 19 Death and Loss and Grieving Letting Go for GoodChapter 20 Letting Go and Holding Tight Giving Our Children Permission to Become Healthy Parents Themselves
