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Shattering the popular myth that porn is harmless, the personal accounts of 25 brave women in He Chose Porn over Me reveal the real-life trauma experienced by women at the hands of their porn-consuming partners - men who were supposed to care for them.
This confronting but necessary book dares to tell the truth about pornography's destructive impact - about the men who habitually use it and the women and children who are mistreated and discarded as a result.
The women in this book were collateral damage in their partner's insatiable greed for porn. Their stories tell of the crushing of intimacy, respect, connection, love. Porn colonised their families, leaving women rejected and scarred. They were subjected to sexual terrorism in their own homes. The men, turbo-charged by pornography, were intoxicated by sexualised power. They didn't care if they lost everything including their partners.
In this haunting expose, pornography is rightfully situated as an insidious tool of violence against women.
The contributors, now working to re-build their lives, found a confidante in Melinda Tankard Reist who supported them in the sharing of their experiences in these pages, and to warn other women - don't date men who use porn ...
Contents
Introduction - Melinda Tankard Reist
He chose porn over me. - Courtney CatEarth
He used me like a blow-up doll. Florence The pornography warped his mind. He believed all women wanted to have sex with him. - Sarah
I left my first husband because of porn. My second husband promised he didnt use it. He lied. - Catherine
They looked like his students. - Ceratonia
How can he say he loves me if he finds the women in porn more attractive? - Amalia
I longed for intimacy, but he could not have sex without imagining that I was a prostitute. - Annie
I lost touch with my integrity, I lost my bearings. - Sharni
I was being groomed to become a porn star in the bedroom. - Maggie
If you stay ... a glimpse into your future if you marry a porn addict. - Sarah McDugal
Youve burned down my house and everything in it. - Ginger
He tried to kill me. - Moriah
Porn, sex chat rooms, nude beaches ... but I was blamed for the end of our marriage. - Maya
The compromise to my integrity and my value as a woman felt too great to continue this life with him. - Carla
I am a broken woman ... I guess hes happy enough with his digital girls. - Evelyn
I was disturbed that I was in a relationship with someone who enjoyed getting off on abuse and hatred of women. - Gemma
I knew in my heart that staying would be a slow, agonising death. - Serena
I felt blackmailed into sex to keep a stable home for my children. I saw myself as a prostitute. - Lucy
He expected me to be up for sex at any time. - Rivka
Blood rushed to my face, my body went cold: I found multiple searches for teen porn. - Angie
I had always taught my kids about stranger danger, but I had a monster in our home. - Maree
I was told it was my fault. Somehow he became the victim. - Kate
He told me I was being unreasonable, that all men watch porn, and that all men masturbate - Renee
Run like your house is on fire. - Melissa
He expected me to be available for him, even if I was sick, tired, had my period, recovering from surgery or having a baby. - Tash
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