Full Description
A master class in relationship repair and connection.
At its core, this book delivers an inconvenient truth. Our relationships have to be a daily practice if we want them to thrive. We should treat them like we treat anything that we want to succeed, by giving them time and attention. For far too long it has been assumed that we should innately understand how to love one another. Relationships have fallen into the category of things we should know how to do. But we are not born knowing how to make a relationship work, any more than we are born knowing how to file taxes or buy insurance, and there are no classes in high school or college that teach us how to do this. The Practice of Love is that class.
In his work, Lair Torrent, a licensed marriage and family therapist, brings together concepts and tools that can actually help couples heal for the long haul. Diving beneath the symptoms most therapies focus on, he helps couples develop a deeper understanding of the wounds that brought them together and how they show up in their relationships. The 5 Practices gives the reader an opportunity to weed out and take responsibility for limiting or negative habits while allowing them to learn and adopt new and healthier practices with their partner. These are not short-term solutions, but rather a path to profound healing, deeper connection, and stronger, happier relationships.
Contents
List of Figures
Acknowledgements
Preface
Part 1, Guidepost 1: Mindfulness
Chapter 1: Guidepost1: What is Mindfulness?
Chapter 2: Why is Mindfulness so Important for Couples?
Chapter 3: How to Practice Mindfulness in your Relationship
Chapter 4: The Practice:
Part 2, Guidepost 2: The Parts of Us
Chapter 5: What are Our Parts?
Chapter 6: Why Are Our Parts so Important?
Chapter 7: How Our Parts Work
Chapter 8: Parts Exercises.
Part 3, Guidepost 3: The Narrative
Chapter 9: What is the Narrative?
Chapter 10: Why Our Narratives Are so Important
Chapter 11: How to Use the Narrative.
Chapter 12: The Practice
Part 4, Guidepost 4, Choosing.
Chapter 13, What is Choosing?
Chapter 14, Why Choosing is so Important to Connection.
Chapter 15, How to Choose
Chapter 16: The Practice. Choosing Exercises:
Part 5, Guidepost 5, Personal Responsibility
Chapter 17, What is Personal Responsibility
Chapter 18. Why Personal Responsibility is Integral to Relationships
Chapter 19. How to Take Personal Responsibility
Chapter 20. In Conclusion
Chapter 21. The Practice. Personal Responsibility Exercises
Bibliography
Notes
Index
About the Author
