Reconcilable Differences : Rebuild Your Relationship by Rediscovering the Partner You Love - without Losing Yourself / Christensen, Andrew, Ph.D./ Doss, Brian D./ Jacobson, Neil S., Ph.D.

Reconcilable Differences : Rebuild Your Relationship by Rediscovering the Partner You Love - without Losing Yourself （2ND）

Christensen, Andrew, Ph.D./ Doss, Brian D./ Jacobson, Neil S., Ph.D.

Guilford Pubn（2014/01発売）

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製本 Hardcover:ハードカバー版／ページ数 348 p.
言語 ENG
商品コード 9781462512317
DDC分類 306.7

Full Description

Every couple has disagreements, but what happens when recurring conflicts start to pull your relationship apart? Do you lie awake hoping that your spouse will eventually see things your way, or rehashing the evidence that you're right? Demand some immediate changes--or else? This popular, science-based guide offers powerful solutions for couples frustrated by continual attempts to make each other change. True acceptance may seem difficult to accomplish, but the clear-cut steps and thought-provoking exercises in this book can make it a reality. You'll learn why you keep having the same fights again and again; how to keep small incompatibilities from causing big problems; what communication strategies really work to resolve conflicts; and how to problem-solve and make positive changes--together. Updated throughout with new research, practical tools, and examples, the second edition features a new chapter on mindfulness.Mental health professionals: learn about using this self-help guide as an adjunct to therapy at the authors' website (http://ibct.psych.ucla.edu).

I. The Conflicting Sides of Conflict1. Three Sides to Every Story2. ""You're Wrong!"": Relationship Problems as FaultsII. A DEEP Understanding of Conflict: The Third Side of the Story3. ""How Can You Be That Way?"": Relationship Problems as Differences4. ""You Know How to Hurt Me"": Relationship Problems as Emotional Sensitivities5. ""Can't You See I'm Stressed Out?"": Relationship Problems as External Circumstances6. A Cure Worse Than the Disease: Relationship Problems as Patterns of CommunicationIII. From Argument to Acceptance7. The Delicate Balance: Acceptance and Change8. A Story of Our Own: Acceptance through Understanding9. Walking in Your Partner's Shoes: Acceptance through Compassion10. Getting Some Perspective on the Conflict: Acceptance through Tolerant DistanceIV. Deliberate Change through Acceptance11. The Dilemmas of Deliberate Change12. Deliberate Change through Mindfulness: Custom-Fitting Change to Suit Your Relationship13. Deliberate Change through Communication: Taking Good Advice about Talking and Listening with a Mindful Grain of Salt14. The Silver Bullet of Deliberate Change: Taking Charge of Change Even When Things Go BadV. When Acceptance Is Not Enough15. ""Don't Do That to Me!"": Violence, Verbal Abuse, and Infidelity16. Calling In the Professionals: Couple and Individual TherapyResourcesBibliography