Full Description
You'd think if someone was caught having an affair that they'd make a full confession. You'd think they would know if they wanted to stay or leave. You'd think they would be able to explain why they were unfaithful. You'd think that if they promised to 'fight' for their marriage that their actions would match their words. However, for lots of people recovery is not so straightforward and takes far longer than they would have imagined on discovery day. Sometimes the person who has been unfaithful vows to do 'anything' to make it better but the next day sabotages everything. Sometimes the discoverer of the infidelity is constantly besieged by horrible images or overcome with anxiety-even though they want to move forward. Sometimes the betrayal has been so great-several affairs, hook-up sites, prostitutes or cheating with a friend-that recovery is much harder. Alternatively, the couple's marriage was so close or they were childhood sweethearts that the pain is doubled and quadrupled. If you can't get over your partner's affair, it is easy to think that the pain is too great and you need to split up. However, Andrew G.
Marshall has spent 30 years working with couples in crisis and has a message of hope. 'It's not that there's something fundamentally wrong with your marriage but you have been so profoundly hurt that you need extra help and to learn special skills to find a way round blockages.' In this compassionate book, he shares:* 50 case histories so you don't feel so alone in your struggle.* How to diagnose why you're feeling stuck.* The common myths about infidelity that make recovery harder.* How to communicate better with your partner* Strategies to stop arguments from going round in circles.* How to turn the pain of infidelity into something positive.
Contents
Introduction How to use this book The Questions What if I can't get my head round my partner's affair? How do I trust again when the affair has brought back the past? Why won't my partner answer my questions? What if it feels hopeless because my partner is still in contact with their lover? How can I recover from double betrayal: My partner and my best friend? How can I recover when the affair has gone on for so long? How can I cope with my disgust about my partner's extreme sex? What if he or she is still in love with the affair partner? How can I cope when my partner cheated and had a child? Would I feel better if I had revenge? Why am I doing all the work when my partner did all the cheating? How can we work on our relationship when my partner is depressed and overwhelmed with guilt? How do I forgive? 50 Reasons Why You Can't Get Over Your Partner's Affair Conclusion Seven myths about infidelity that make recovery harder Seven common traps on the road to recovery The number-one skill for turning your relationship around What if you still can't get over your partner's affair? Further Reading About the Author
