The Art of Seduction

The Art of Seduction

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Table of Contents

Acknowledgments                                    ix
Preface xix
Part One The Seductive Character 1 (160)
The Siren 5 (12)
A man is often secretly oppressed by the
role he has to play---by always having to
be responsible, in control, and rational.
The Siren is the ultimate male fantasy
figure because she offers a total release
from the limitations of his life. In her
presence, which is always heightened and
sexually charged, the male feels
transported to a realm of pure pleasure. In
a world where women are often too timid to
project such an image, learn to take
control of the male libido by embodying his
fantasy
The Rake 17 (12)
A woman never quite feels desired and
appreciated enough. She wants attention,
but a man is too often distracted and
unresponsive. The Rake is a great female
fantasy-figure---when he desires a woman,
brief though that moment may be, he will go
to the ends of the earth for her. He may be
disloyal, dishonest, and amoral, but that
only adds to his appeal. Stir a woman's
repressed longings by adapting the Rake's
mix of danger and pleasure
The Ideal Lover 29 (12)
Most people have dreams in their youth that
get shattered or worn down with age. They
find themselves disappointed by people,
events, reality, which cannot match their
youthful ideals. Ideal Lovers thrive on
people's broken dreams, which become
lifelong fantasies. You long for romance?
Adventure? Lofty spiritual communion? The
Ideal Lover reflects your fantasy. He or
she is an artist in creating the illusion
your require. In a world of disenchantment
and baseness, there is limitless seductive
power in following the path of the Ideal
Lover
The Dandy 41 (12)
Most of us feel trapped within the limited
roles that the world expects us to play. We
are instantly attracted to those who are
more fluid than we are---those who create
their own persona. Dandies excite us
because they cannot be categorized, and
hint at a freedom we want for ourselves.
They play with masclinity and femininity;
they fashion their own physical image,
which is always starting. Use the power of
the Dandy to create an ambiguous, alluring
presence that stirs repressed desires
The Natural 53 (14)
Childhood is the golden paradise we are
always conciously or unconsiously trying to
re-create. The Natural embodies that
longed-for qualities of
childhood---spontaneity, sincerity,
unpretentiousness. In the presence of
Naturals, we feel at ease, caught up in
their playful spirit, transported back to
that golden age. Adopt the pose of the
Natural to neutralize people's
defensiveness and infect them with helpless
delight
The Coquette 67 (12)
The ability to delay satisfaction is the
ultimate art of seduction---while waiting,
the victim is held in thrall. Coquettes are
the grand masters of the game,
orchestrating a back-and-forth movement
between hope and frustration. They bait
with the promise of reward---the hope of
physical pleasure, happiness, fame by
association, power---all of which, however,
proves elusive; yet this only makes their
targets pursue them the more. Imitate the
alternating heat and coolness of the
Coquette and you will keep the seduced at
your heels
The Charmer 79 (16)
Charm is seduction without sex. Charmers
are consummate manipulators, masking their
cleverness by creating a mood of pleasure
and comfort. Their method is simple: They
deflect attention from themselves and focus
it on their target. They understand your
spirit, feel your pain, adapt to your
moods. In the presence of a Charmer you
feel better about yourself. Learn to cast
the Charmer's spell by aiming at people's
primary weaknesses: vanity and self-esteem
The Charismatic 95 (24)
Charisma is a presence that excites us. It
comes from an inner
quality---self-confidence, sexual energy,
sense of purpose, contentment---that most
people lack and want. This quality radiates
outward, permeating the gestures of
Charismatics, making them seem
extraordinary and superior. They learn to
heighten their charisma with a piercing
gaze, fiery oratory, an air of mystery.
Create the charismatic illusion by
radiating intensity while remaining detached
The Star 119(12)
Daily life is harsh, and most of us
constantly seek escape from it in fantasies
and dreams. Stars feed on this weakness;
standing out from others through a
distinctive and appealing style, they make
us want to watch them. At the same time,
they are vague and ethereal, keeping their
distance, and letting us imagine more than
is there. Their dreamlike quality works on
our unconscious. Learn to become an object
of fascination by projecting the glittering
but elusive presence of the Star
The Anti-Seducer 131(16)
Seducers draw you in by the focused,
individualized attention they pay to you.
Anti-seducers are the opposite: insecure,
self-absorbed, and unable to grasp the
psychology of another person, they
literally repel. Anti-Seducers have no
self-awareness, and never realize when they
are prestering, imposing, talking too much.
Root out anti-seductive qualities in
yourself, and recognize them in
others---there is no pleasure or profit in
dealing with the Anti-Seducer
The Seducer's Victims---The Eighteen Types 147(14)
Part Two The Seductive Process 161(270)
Phase One: Separation---Stirring Interest and
Desire
Choose the Right Victim 167(10)
Everything depends on the target of your
seduction. Study you prey thoroughly, and
choose only those who will prove
susceptible to your charms. The right
victims are those for whom you can fill a
void, who see in you something exotic. They
are often isolated or unhappy, or can
easily be made so---for the completely
contented person is almost impossible to
seduce. The perfect victim has some quality
that inspires strong emotions in you,
making your seductive maneuvers seen more
natural and dynamic. The perfect victim
allows for the perfect chase
Create a False Sense of Security---Approach 177(8)
Indirectly
If you are too direct early on, you risk
stirring up a resistance that will never be
lowered. At first there must be nothing of
the seducer in your manner. The seduction
should begin at an angle, indirectly, so
that the target only gradually becomes
aware of you. Haunt the periphery of your
target's life---approach through a third
party, or seem to cultivate a relatively
neutral relationship, moving gradually from
friend to lover. Lull the target into
feeling secure, then strike
Send Mixed Signals 185(10)
Once people are aware of your presence, and
perhaps vaguely intrigued, you need to stir
their interest before it settles on someone
else. Most of us are much too
obvious---instead, be hard to figure out.
Send mixed signals: both tough and tender,
both spiritual and earthly, both innocent
and cunning. A mix of qualities suggests
depth, which fascinates even as it
confuses. An elusive, enigmatic aura will
make people want to know more, drawing them
into your circle. Create such a power by
hinting at something contradictory within
you
Appear to Be an Object of Desire---Create 195(8)
Triangles
Few are drawn to the person whom others
avoid or neglect; people gather around
those who have already attracted interest.
To draw your victims closer and make them
hungry to possess you, you must create an
aura of desirability---of being wanted and
courted by many. It will become a point of
vanity for them to be the preferred object
of your attention, to win you away from a
crowd of admirers. Build a reputation that
precedes you: If many have succumbed to
your charms, there must be a reason
Create a Need---Stir Anxiety and Discontent 203(8)
A perfectly satisfied person cannot be
seduced. Tension and disharmony must be
instilled in your targets' minds. Stir
within them feelings of discontent, an
unhappiness with their circumstances and
with themselves. The feelings of inadequacy
that you create will give you space to
insinuate yourself, to make them see you as
the answer to their problems. Pain and
anxiety are the proper precursors to
pleasure. Learn to manufacture the need
that you can fill
Master the Art of Insinuation 211(8)
Making your targets feel dissatisfied and
in need of your attention is essential, but
if you are too obvious, they will see
through you and grow defensive. There is no
known defense, however, against
insinuation---the art of planting ideas in
people's minds by dropping elusive hints
that take root days later, even appearing
to them as their own idea. Create a
sublanguage---bold statements followed by
retraction and apology, ambiguous comments,
banal talk combined with alluring
glances---that enters the target's
unconscious to convey your real meaning.
Make everything suggestive
Enter Their Spirit 219(10)
Most people are locked in their own worlds,
making them stubborn and hard to persuade.
The way to lure them out of their shell and
set up your seduction is to enter their
spirit. Play by their rules, enjoy what
they enjoy, adapt yourself to their moods.
In doing so you will stroke their
deep-rooted narcissism and lower their
defenses. Indulge your targets' every mood
and whim, giving them nothing to react
against or resist
Create Temptation 229(12)
Lure the target deep into your seduction by
creating the proper temptation: a glimpse
of the pleasures to come. As the serpent
tempted Eve with the promise of forbidden
knowledge, you must awaken a desire in your
targets that they cannot control. Find that
weakness of theirs, that fantasy that has
yet to be realized, and hint that you can
lead them toward it. The key is to keep it
vague. Stimulate a curiosity stronger than
the doubts and anxieties that go with it,
and they will follow you
Phase Two: Lead Astray---Creating Pleasure and
Confusion
Keep Them in Suspense---What Comes Next? 241(10)
The moment people feel they know what to
expect from you, your spell on them is
broken. More: You have ceded them power.
The only way to lead the seduced along and
keep the upper hand is to create suspense,
a calculated surprise. Doing something they
do not expect from you will give them a
delightful sense of spontaneity---they will
not be able to foresee what comes next. You
are always one step ahead and in control.
Give the victim a thrill with a sudden
change of direction
Use the Demonic Power of Words to Sow 251(14)
Confusion
It is hard to make people listen; they are
consumed with their own thoughts and
desires, and have little time for yours.
The trick to making them listen is to say
what they want to hear, to fill their ears
with whatever is pleasant to them. This is
the essence of seductive language. Inflame
people's emotions with loaded phrases,
flatter them, comfort their insecurities,
envelop them in sweet words and promises,
and not only will they listen to you, they
will lose their will to resist you
Pay Attention to Detail 265(12)
Lofty words of love and grand gestures can
be suspicious: Why are you trying so hard
to please? The details of a seduction---the
subtle gestures, the offhand things you
do---are often more charming and revealing.
You must learn to distract your victims
with a myriad of pleasant little
rituals---thoughtful gifts tailored just
for them, clothes and adornments designed
to please them, gestures that show the time
and attention you are paying them.
Mesmerized by what they see, they will not
notice what you are really up to
Poeticize Your Presence 277(8)
Important things happen when your targets
are alone: The slightest feeling of relief
that you are not there, and it is all over.
Familiarity and overexposure will cause
this reaction. Remain elusive, then.
Intrigue your targets by alternating an
exciting presence with a cool distance,
exuberant moments followed by calculated
absences. Associate yourself with poetic
images and objects, so that when they think
of you, they begin to see you through an
idealized halo. The more you figure in
their minds, the more they will envelop you
in seductive fantasies
Disarm Through Strategic Weakness and 285(10)
Vulnerability
Too much maneuvering on your part may raise
suspicion. The best way to cover your
tracks is to make the other person feel
superior and stronger. If you seem to be
weak, vulnerable, enthralled by the other
person, and unable to control yourself, you
will make your actions look more natural,
less calculated. Physical weakness---tears,
bashfulness, paleness---will help create
the effect. Play the victim, then transform
your target's sympathy into love
Confuse Desire and Reality---The Perfect 295(14)
Illusion
To compensate for the difficulties in their
lives, people spend a lot of their time
daydreaming, imagining a future full of
adventure, success, and romance. If you can
create the illusion that through you they
can live out their dreams, you will have
them at your mercy. Aim at secret wishes
that have been thwarted or repressed,
stirring up uncontrollable emotions,
clouding their powers of reason. Lead the
seduced to a point of confusion in which
they can no longer tell the difference
between illusion and reality
Isolate the Victim 309(12)
An isolated person is weak. By slowly
isolating your victims, you make them more
vulnerable to your influence. Take them
away from their normal milieu, friends,
family, home. Give them the sense of being
marginalized, in limbo---they are leaving
one world behind and entering another. Once
isolated like this, they have no outside
support, and in their confusion they are
easily led astray. Lure the seduced into
your lair, where nothing is familiar
Phase Three: The Precipice---Deepening the
Effect Through Extreme Measures
Prove Yourself 321(12)
Most people want to be seduced. If they
resist your efforts, it is probably because
you have not gone far enough to allay their
doubts---about you motives, the depth of
your feelings, and so on. One well-timed
action that shows how far you are willing
to go to win them over will dispel their
doubts. Do not worry about looking foolish
or making a mistake---any kind of deed that
is self-sacrificing and for your targets'
sake will so overwhelm their emotions, they
won't notice anything else
Effect a Regression 333(16)
People who have experienced a certain kind
of pleasure in the past will try to repeat
or relive it. The deepest-rooted and most
pleasurable memories are usually those from
earliest childhood, and are often
unconciously associated with a parental
figure. Bring your targets back to that
point by placing yourself in the oedipal
triangle and positioning them as the need
child. Unaware of the cause of their
emotional response, they will fall in love
with you
Stir Up the Transgressive and Taboo 349(10)
There are always social limits on what one
can do. Some of these, the most elemental
taboos, go back centuries; others are more
superficial, simply defining polite and
acceptable behavior. Making your targets
feel that you are leading them past either
kind of limit is immensely seductive.
People yearn to explore their dark side.
Once the desire to transgress draws your
targets to you, it will be hard for them to
stop. Take them farther than they
imagined---the shared feeling of guilt and
complicity will create a powerful bond
Use Spiritual Lures 359(10)
Everyone has doubts and
insecurities---about their body, their
self-worth, their sexuality. If your
seduction appeals exclusively to the
physical, you will stir up these doubts and
make your targets self-conscious. Instead,
lure them out of their insecurities by
making them focus on something sublime and
spiritual: a religious experience, a lofty
work of art, the occult. Lost in a
spiritual mist, the target will feel light
and uninhibited. Deepen the effect of your
seduction by making its sexual culmination
seem like the spiritual union of two souls
Mix Pleasure with Pain 369(14)
The greatest mistake in seduction is being
too nice. At first, perhaps, your kindness
is charming, but it soon grows monotonous;
you are trying too hard to please, and seem
insecure. Instead of overwhelming your
targets with niceness, try inflicting some
pain. Make them feel guilty and insecure.
Instigate a breakup---now a rapprochement,
a return to your earlier kindness, will
turn them weak at the knees. The lower the
lows you create, the greater the hights. To
heighten the erotic charge, create the
excitement of fear
Phase Four: Moving In for the Kill
Give Them Space to Fall---The Pursuer Is 383(10)
Pursued
If your targets become too used to you as
the aggressor, they will give less of their
own energy, and the tension will slacken.
You need to wake them up, turn the tables.
Once they are under your spell, take a step
back and they will start to come after you.
Hint that you are growing bored. Seem
interested in someone else. Soon they will
want to possess you physically, and
restraint will go out the window. Create
the illusion that the seducer is being
seduced
Use Physical Lures 393(12)
Targets with active minds are dangerous: If
they see through your manipulations, they
may suddenly develop doubts. Put their
minds gently to rest, and waken their
dormant senses, by combining a nondefensive
attitude with a charged sexual presence.
While your cool, nonchalant air is lowering
their inhibitions, your glances, voice, and
bearing---oozing sex and desire---are
getting under their skin and raising their
temperature. Never force the physical;
instead infect your targets with heat, lure
them into lust. Morality, judgment, and
concern for the future will all melt away
Master the Art of the Bold Move 405(10)
A moment has arrived: Your victim clearly
desires you, but is not ready to admit it
openly, let alone act on it. This is the
time to throw aside chivalry, kindness, and
conquetry and to overwhelm with a bold
move. Don't give the victim time to
consider the consequences. Showing
hesitation or awkwardness means you are
thinking of yourself, as opposed to being
overwhelmed by the victim's charms. One
person must go on the offensive, and it is
you
Beware the Aftereffects 415(16)
Danger follows in the aftermath of a
successful seduction. After emotions have
reached a pitch, they often swing in the
opposite direction---toward lassitude,
distrust, disappointment. If you are to
part, make the sacrifice swift and sudden.
If you are to stay in a relationship,
beware a flagging of energy, a creeping
familiarity that will spoil the fantasy. A
second seduction is required. Never let the
other person take you for granted---use
absence, create pain and conflict, to keep
the seduced on tenterhooks
Appendix A: Seductive Environment/Seductive Time 431(10)
Appendix B: Soft Seduction: How to Sell 441(14)
Anything to the Masses
Selected Bibliography 455(2)
Index 457